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Tender ways God shows us His love

7/7/2014

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He promises that He will never leave nor forsake us, that He'll be with us until the end of the age, that His eye is ever upon us, that He knows when we sit down and when we rise up, that He understands our thoughts from afar. 

While we are up in Alaska, one of the special jobs our children are getting the privilege of doing is scanning "Gramma Mary's" (Dale's mom) extensive collection of letters so as not to lose their contents. My mother-in-law was a very deep, thoughtful person who wrote on a consistent basis, mostly to her siblings who lived elsewhere, as she and her husband braved the "new frontier" of Alaska to build their lives, home and family. Even though she was busy raising five sons, she took the time to write these letters and had the foresight to use carbon paper – yes, carbon paper! – to keep a copy herself. They are an amazing treasure of insights both into the early years of my husband and his family as well as the heart and mind of a truly incredible woman.

One small example among many:
"The sun is shining, you see; and whenever the sun shines up here, it inspires me to a sensation of having infinite energy and ambition – but insufficient time or ability to organize enough to accomplish anything except to be happy."

Although Alzheimer's is a tragic disease, it struck me that God's objectives in allowing this huge struggle, especially at the stage Mary's at (pretty advanced now, not recognizing much), is as much, if not more, about teaching those around the one with the disease unparalleled lessons of patience, presence and purpose. 

Patience – because you have no idea how long a victim of Alzheimer's will live, and the care can be tedious and lack reward. Presence – because all that really matters is the moment. I am learning that what matters is to make the moments with Mary count, to freely smile at her, hug her, whisper "I love you" and remind her that she's in a room with others who love her so much. When a smile comes to her lips, which can no longer utter much, it speaks volumes.

And finally... Purpose. What I mean by this is the importance of being intentional in all we do. Not just let stuff slide, but to have a clear intention and purpose in what we do, how we connect, how we love. In most of our relationships, there is still an easily recognizable feedback loop. That is a huge gift, and we need to cherish it while we have it. 

I know these lessons can be used in ministering to and loving on international students as well, so I am grateful for the chance to learn them in new ways here.

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Experiencing God's "unfolding..."

6/2/2014

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I grew restless. I wanted to do something totally different. After 20+ years with ISI and approaching 50 years old, it felt time to do something radically different. I explored several possibilities, but, like Balaam who was blocked by his donkey, God stood in the way! And that's a very good thing because I've come to learn that God's only out for my very best. He doesn't want me preoccupied with anything less! During that time, a friend (Gael, from Togo, who's featured under "Stories") put up a post on Facebook that really spoke to me. I vowed I'd repost when the time was right. And it was right for me in early January 2014, when a final door I was exploring shut tight. Here's the post:
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Over the last four months, God introduced me to a fabulous Christian Life Coach who had helped me sharpen my understanding of God's calling on my life and pushed me forward in my dreams. Susan really helped me grow a lot, and I cannot recommend her enough. (For info on her program, go HERE.) I have emerged from these four months with a sharper clarity and focus than I've felt for years, both with ISI and some other plans He has for me. And this, truly, is the grace of God at work. I am nothing without Him but I can be ALL He intends with Him steering the ship! Another, more recent post of Gael's also caught my attention, and I'll close with it. I pray it's true for him, for me, and for you:
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    Caroline DePalatis

    After 22 years of working with international students + traveling, living abroad, 28 years of marriage (parenting for 19 of those), and 31 years of growing closer to Jesus, I've come to realize two basic truths. ONE: Life is sweet when you're keeping your eyes fixed on your Maker and walking in the center of His will for your life; and TWO: I'm getting old! Here's hoping I'll have a word or two of insight and challenge to share!

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